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Bring Hope Into Your Life, Despite Stress
You are better than you imagine and more than you hope. Be inspired to live the life you want.
Overcoming Stress, anxiety, and fear
Let's Move Toward Your Best Hopes.
Stress is physical or emotional strain you feel from a demanding situation.
Anxiety is worrying about your future.
Fear is worrying about what’s happening in your present.
Up to a point, experiencing stress, anxiety, and fear is normal and, even, necessary. But too much of these things can make life very, very difficult.
By focusing on your best hopes and how to get there, you may be able to break your cycle of stress, anxiety, and fear. And you may do that surprisingly quickly.
a different kind of therapy.
a different kind of therapist.
welcome to solution focused therapy.
Therapy with Me is About You Living the Life You Want.
You probably think therapy is getting advice from your therapist about how to live your life better. And you probably think the process is going to be lengthy and emotionally painful.
I don't practice that kind of therapy.
It would be terribly arrogant for me to think that I know how to live your life better than you do. No one knows that better than you.
In our sessions, we will explore your best hopes for our work together and how you can reach your hopes. We will focus on building the future you want, not spend time re-traumatizing you with difficult things from your past.
I believe that you know how to build your brightest future. By very carefully listening to you, I will be able to ask you the right questions that will lead you to your own answers for your life.
If all of this sounds good to you, then I might be the therapist for you.
Solution Focused Therapy is About Your Future, Not Your Past.
Solution-Focused Therapy (SFT) focuses on the future. SFT can be brief, bringing lasting change by building solutions and not attempting to directly solve problems. It does not matter what your issue is -- stress, anxiety, depression, pain, trauma, addiction, parenting, relationships, issues at work, mental health problems or something else. Focusing on a solution could be very helpful to you. This process avoids rehashing, complaining and re-traumatizing that tend to bring people down. With Solution-Focused Therapy you envision your future without the problem, using a detailed description.
Solution-Focused Therapy, also known as Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) consists of a few main approaches: deciding what you want, recognizing your resources, finding exceptions and noticing change.
Deciding what you want
You can’t get somewhere if you don’t know where you’re going. What do you really want and what will it look like when you have it?
The more problems you have had in your life, the more resources you have built up.
Think of a time you have walked away from an altercation instead of fighting.
Think of a time when you have been agitated or angry and didn’t fly off the handle.
Think of a time you chose not to do something that you have done in the past.
How did you do it? Your personal resources are the tools you used to make those things happen.
Everything has exceptions. Nothing is exactly the same all day long, every single day. Some days you might feel less depressed than other days. Some days your child is unexpectedly well-behaved, or, at least, behaves better. Some days your anxiety is not so bad and you feel just a little bit of calm. Some days when your pain is more bearable than others. These exceptions are windows into solutions. These are the exceptions that keep you going. They give you strength. Your problem is not as constant as you probably believe. Think about it.
When you have what you want, what will be different? What will you notice that is evidence that the change you want is present in your life? When you know what to look for, you will find it easier.
Solution-Focused Therapy and You
You can start your transformation into the person you want to be by visualizing that new version of yourself. Solution-Focused Therapy has helped many people to see what is possible and then get there. What is possible for you? What are your hopes and dreams? Let’s explore them and help get you there!
Long Live Online Therapy!
For now, during the COVID-19 pandemic, my practice is entirely online. You know what?
I think online therapy (also known as teletherapy) is great.
We can do teletherapy together from anywhere in California.
I have been offering online therapy for 3 1/2 years. Before COVID, about one quarter of my clients were out of my area and seeing me online. Now, my entire practice is online. Teletherapy makes therapy more accessible. There are so many benefits for my clients and I.
For instance, I can work with you from anywhere in California. Teletherapy promotes your independence and saves you time, money, and your precious personal energy.
As a parent, you'll love online therapy. Online therapy doesn’t require a sitter for your kids. Teletherapy is a serious time-saver -- you don't to travel to and from your appointment. Many parents schedule therapy on their lunch hour. You can sit in your private office or in your car and log in on your phone. As a couple, you can even do therapy at lunch from different locations.
Online therapy offers a different kind of privacy than in-person therapy. You can choose a therapist who lives far enough away that you will never bump into each other in your local grocery store. I have worked with lots of clients in Southern California. I live over 8 hours away. I will never meet them in person. I do see my local clients around town. I follow ethics rules and never initiate conversation. They sometimes come up and say hi, though. Some are thankful and continue on without engaging. With distance teletherapy, that awkward moment doesn't present itself to my clients.
While teletherapy isn't for everyone, I think it's fantastic. I recommend that you give it a try.
Online therapy can be just as effective as face-to-face sessions in an office setting. In fact, many people struggling with depression prefer to work online. It can be difficult to get going to leave the house when you’re depressed. Perhaps you don’t want to get dressed.
If you’re more comfortable at home than anywhere else, you can get help online in the comfort of your own home. Visiting a new place and meeting a new person all at the same time can be overwhelming and take extra energy. You may also feel stressed traveling to an unfamiliar location. Online therapy does away with all those things.
With online therapy, you choose your location. Some clients like to be outside during their session. Others choose the privacy of their room. Some prefer the privacy of their car parked in the driveway to be out of earshot of family members. You get to be wherever you’re most comfortable.
Online therapy can help you overcome barriers that previously kept you from seeking help. All you have to do is click a link on your device to get the help you need.
Single Session Therapy
Therapy does not need to take a long time. One shift in your thinking can lead you to a significant insight. That insight can change your life.
One new way of seeing something can change your thinking in other ways. In turn, that new thinking can lead you to other changes.
This virtuous cycle can begin to run on its own. It's almost as though you set up dominoes to be knocked down.
In very little time, you can replace your old problem-creating thinking patterns for new solution-focused thinking.