Anger is a normal human emotion. Sometimes, anger gets the best of us.
You will experience times when you will let little things fly out of proportion and really get to you. Depending on your mood at the time, you could get super-mad.
Out-of-control anger issues can lead to destructive or abusive behaviors with serious consequences. When you have difficulty expressing your anger in a healthy way, problems that stem from your anger can infiltrate your life. Your relationships and your career can eventually be in danger. You can avoid breaking relationships and getting into thorny legal problems if you address anger problems early on.
Anger is a powerful emotion. It has a spectrum of intensity from mild annoyance to intense rage. If you get overwhelmed by anger and have difficulty controlling yourself, you may have a problem. Lashing out every time you get angry is not useful or healthy.
Working on anger management helps you see things from different perspectives so you can better control and express your feelings. Once you have a different way of seeing situations, you can respond differently and make the switch from being aggressive to being assertive and communicating better.
Your new mindset can allow you to become less overwhelmed by things that used to trigger your intense anger. When you are slower to anger, you have the opportunity to think more about how you want to appropriately respond instead of having an automatically programmed response. You can choose to respond in a healthy and constructive way.
Different things can cause anger. Anger is a “secondary emotion” that is driven by underlying emotions. Your anger could stem from feeling you have lost your power or control over your life. Your anger could come from wounded pride, feelings of injustice, racism, disrespect, discrimination, disappointment, financial issues . . . the list goes on and on. Feeling unheard or misunderstood are common underlying causes.
Anger is a powerful emotion. It can help you feel stronger or safer in some situations. Anger can also cover up symptoms of sadness, grief and fear.
Being angry isn’t always a bad thing. How you express your anger and what actions you decide to take will determine whether your anger is healthy. Treating anger issues isn’t about stopping your angry feelings. Anger is a valid emotion. Dealing with angry feelings in a healthy way is better for you, your relationships and your life in general. If your anger is getting the best of you and your personal or professional life is being impacted, you don’t have to suffer through it. Just ask for help. I can help you work on solutions that can work for you, so you can live a more enjoyable life.