Is your relationship codependent or healthy?
Sometimes, telling the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship can be difficult. This is especially true if you have never had role models showing you what a healthy relationship is. If you grew up in a family where relationships were dysfunctional, you weren't taught the difference between healthy and unhealthy interactions. The good news is that you already have an example of what not to do and what you want to avoid when choosing a partner.
Don’t worry, you're not alone. You can learn how to build a healthy relationship.
One kind of relationship you want to avoid is a codependent relationship. Codependent relationships are built on an unhealthy sense of who you are and what you’re worth. Low self-esteem is a key component. When one partner has low self-esteem, it leaves space for the other partner to take control. The controlling partner often grows more controlling over time, while the dependent partner becomes more and more unsure of themself.
The ability to spot the difference between healthy interactions and those where attachment to the other person is unhealthy is an area where self confidence and personal growth are key. You can spot signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships. You just have to be able to see them and feel their impact. Understanding these signs gives you power. It gives you the ability to make healthy choices for your life, not only in romantic relationships, but friendships too.
Understanding codependent relationships gives you the ability to choose the people you let into your life and those you keep out in order to create the future you want. The whole process begins with awareness. Once you know your worth and what you’re looking for, you will take different actions that will lead to different outcomes. The whole idea is for you to live your life with the love, respect and compassion you deserve.
Your awareness increases when you understand codependent relationships. You are better able choose people who will treat you well.